Most people fail to realize the fact that you don’t need to be in a relationship to achieve happiness. Since when did obtaining happiness have to deal with another person? I’m pretty sure that there was some point in your life where you were completely happy, without being in a relationship. So why does that change all of a sudden? Sure, being involved in a relationship can bring happiness, I’m sure it does; I know it does. But, do not solely base your own happiness off of someone else. Don’t get me wrong, it’s always a pleasant and heartwarming feeling when you know that you have someone you can come home to, someone who you can call yours, someone who you know you can turn to when nobody else is there. But don’t let it get to the point where you will be nothing without them; do not be dependent on another person. Why do you think individuals who are independent, are usually the strongest? Be strong within yourself, and you will establish a strong relationship. Do not place your happiness in someone else’s hand; because what happens when that person cheats on you? What happens when that person isn’t there for you anymore, when you thought that they would always be by your side? When they leave you, so does your happiness. Love isn’t selfish. Don’t ever forget that. Make sure you are strong enough to pick yourself back up, when you get knocked down.

Some people are just jumping into relationships, throwing themselves out there, just for the sake of it. If you’re going out with someone who you find attractive, but you despise their personality, then what’s the point? You cannot fake true happiness, so why bother dealing with a fake relationship? Most likely, it isn’t going to work out in the end, anyways. You’ll be bitching about how big of an asshole your boyfriend was when you guys broke up; when you know damn right that he was already one from the very beginning. You could’ve saved yourself not only the time, but also the pain that you went through; if you had realized that they weren’t what you were looking for in the first place. You actually did realize it, but you were too foolish to admit it, when you knew that it was nothing more than mere infatuation. If you don’t find someone that you’re compatible with at the moment, why not just wait? Why not wait for that person to suddenly appear? You never know what life will bring you, everything is unexpected. Wait for that person, the one that will make you wonder, “Damn, where the fuck have you been my whole life?”

There may be that “missing piece” to you, but trust me when I say this; When you finally find that person, you will be so relieved that you waited. You will be so relieved that you didn’t get involved with someone else. If the feeling is genuine, then nothing can top that. You should always find someone who has your back, rather than someone who turns your head. It’s true what they say, “Appearance captures the eye, but the personality captures the heart.”

But most importantly: Love yourself, before you love someone else. If you don’t accept yourself for who you are, what makes you think that someone else will?

- kelbin Lei.